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Eating problems

What is an eating problem?

We all have our unique eating habits. One day you might eat loads and the next you might not be as hungry. There may be times when you swing between wanting to eat healthier or just indulging a bit. That’s completely normal.

But sometimes the way we feel about food and eating can become overwhelming and cause anxiety or stress. Here are some signs that you might be suffering from an eating problem:

  • heavily controlling what or how much you eat
  • getting urges to rid your body of food
  • feeling like you can’t stop yourself from eating
  • turning to food to deal with your emotions
  • feeling guilty for enjoying food

Eating problems are more common than you might think. They can affect anyone, no matter your body shape, lifestyle, gender, culture, age, or ethnicity. And it’s not just girls who can be affected – studies say about 25% of people dealing with an eating disorder are male.

All through my childhood, I had no complications with eating or food. However, I developed an eating disorder around the age of 13 and was treated at the age of 15 by a CAMHS eating disorder clinic.

Signs and symptoms of eating problems

Here are some possible symptoms of eating problems:

  • losing your appetite
  • eating when you’re not hungry or to cope with your feelings
  • obsessing about your body shape, like being ‘too fat’ or ‘not muscly enough’
  • eating only certain types of foods or following fad/extreme diets
  • being afraid of gaining weight
  • constantly thinking about food
  • dramatic weight changes, or trying to gain a lot of muscle
  • making yourself sick or using laxatives (drugs that make you poo more)
  • leaving the table quickly to be sick or hide food
  • being secretive about eating or preoccupied with food
  • feeling self-conscious about or not wanting to eat with others
  • feeling guilty for eating or worrying about eating certain foods
  • wanting to eat but not being able to
  • limiting the amount that you eat to help you feel in control
  • exercising a lot more than usual or feeling like you have to exercise after eating

You might think you know what an eating disorder looks like, but everyone gets different symptoms and your weight or appearance don’t always define the problem. If you’re struggling with any of these symptoms, speak to someone you trust or contact a helpline.

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Being around unfamiliar foods and eating dinner daily with my extended family, most of whom I had never met before, was very difficult. As I have lived in London my whole life, and am no longer fluent in my mother tongue, I felt disconnected from the traditional Gujarati culture and attitudes. In India, having an eating disorder was another thing that made me feel even more alien.

Different types of eating disorders

If you’ve been struggling with eating and food for a while and it’s impacting your day-to-day life, a doctor might diagnose you with an eating disorder. We’ve got information for you about some common eating disorders below.

Reach out for help

Some eating problems can become serious mental health conditions that need professional help to diagnose and treat. In very serious cases, and without the right kind of support and treatment, they can cause death. If you’re struggling with eating, speak to someone. Remember that struggling with food or your eating is never your fault and you deserve to get better.

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Your motivation to recover might change over time, which is okay. But as long as you maintain your commitment to recovery, you’ll find a way to push through. And once you do, you’ll look back on your strength and perseverance and realise how amazing you are.

Getting help for an eating problem

The best way to recover from an eating problem is to get support as early as possible. Here are some steps you can take to get better.

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I found help outside traditional care routes through online services, a local LGBT charity, and dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT). Alongside this, I taught myself to cook, which was vital in changing how I viewed food. The voice slowly became quieter.
Charlie, 20

Real stories about recovering from eating problems

Hope Virgo's story of recovery

Hope Virgo found it hard to express her emotions from a young age. As a teenager, she started eating less and less, until a point came where her heart was close to failing and she was admitted to hospital to be treated for anorexia.

Watch Hope tell her story in her own words.

Supporting someone with an eating problem

If you know someone who’s struggling with their eating, try your best to be there for them. It might be a sign that they’re dealing with some tough things in their life. If they open up to you, here’s how you can help:

  • Encourage them to speak to a GP

    A GP can help them get the right support. If you have support services at school, college or university, they’ll also be able to direct you to the right help.

  • Tell them where they can get help

    Point them to organisations and charities like Beat, where they can find more information and get support.

  • Avoid commenting on their eating

    Commenting on how much or how little they’re eating, or even congratulating any improvements in their relationship with food, can damage their recovery or make it harder for them to talk openly.

  • Plan activities that don’t revolve around food

    Try doing activities with them that are nothing to do with food, like watching a film or playing video games.

It's not all on you

Remember, if you’re worried about someone, it’s not all on you to fix it and you don’t have to keep it a secret. If they don’t get the help they need, things can get much worse very quickly. Telling someone you trust is crucial – the quicker your friend gets support, the more likely they are to recover.

Supporting a friend with their mental health
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Remember that by telling an adult that you think there might be a problem, you are not being a bad friend – in fact, you are being the best friend you could possibly be by helping them and spotting the signs of a relapse early before it spirals out of control. Even if your friend does not see you helping them as a good thing immediately, I promise when they begin to recover they will really appreciate it.

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If you're not sure where to turn to for support right now, try one of these services.

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This page was reviewed in March 2024.

It was co-created with young people with experience of eating problems.

We will next review the page in 2027.

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